Charisma, How does that matter to be a leader ?

Charisma, I was wondering what the leaders got extra to be a leader. I was trying to explore with google help. Here are my learnings about the same.

As Dr Tony defines charisma as " The ability to positively influence others by connecting with them physically, emotionally, and intellectually."

It is almost must to have charisma to become a people leader. As people tend to inspire these personalities and wants to be around them even in critical times.

Is these people born with charisma or can it be learnt ?
Some appearence part is true with in born quality, but most of them are not only learnt but adopted qualities.There is one more thing also true that no one is 100% charismatic as the person would become God. Some of the near charismatic persons are Vajpayee, Churchil, Clinton, Bill Gates and Arnold. People would love to be around them becuase of the magnetism then spread around.

As per Dr Tony, the Charisma is a combinations of skills, talent and appearence. Here are the list of them, which makes one a charismatic

1. Silent message...
It is something we unconsciously send out signals to others. Maybe we look them right in the eye, or maybe we stare at your shoes when you talk. Perhaps we slump your shoulders, or maybe we square them confidently. We may fail to smile naturally or shake hands firmly, or we might dress in a way that's not ourself. All these shape our image and affect the people whom we want to lead.

2. persuasive talent...
Charismatic executives can distill complex ideas into simple messages so that even the guy who sweeps the floor understands what the company stands for and why that's important.

3. ability to speak well...
We may have a zillion terrific ideas, but who will know if you can't articulate them?

4. listening skill...
Rarely taught and infrequently practiced, listening is nonetheless a key to communicating and making others feel special in his presence.

5. use of space and time...
Again, though it's often overlooked, use of spatial and temporal territories can make or break relationships.

6. ability to adapt to others...
Building rapport means understanding other people's personalities, then adapting your own behavior to increase compatibility.

7. vision, your ideas...
Regardless of how strong and persuasive a speaker you are, how adept you are at connecting with others, how well you listen, use your space or time, or send out silent signals, you've still got to have something to say…or you'll just be an empty suit.

These qualities defaults a self confident optimists with tones of positive attitude . So, it's not a single ingredient that makes a person charismatic, and, more important, charisma isn't based on I.Q., genetics, social position, wealth, or luck. Instead, it can be learned.

But as per my previous posts, change in one persons value is a diffcult one, and its not easy to change / learn values. It needs too many paradigam shifts, that has to happen to get the desired learning. These changes can be minimum when you are lucky and already have those values built in with you default.

- Saravana Kumar ( Since 1976 )